30 | 4 Phone Boundary Tips for Personal Business Owners

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Do you ever find yourself turning to your

phone without even thinking about it?

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Or do you get sucked into

scrolling and regret not using

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that time for something else?

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You are not alone.

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I'm Alex, a Screen Time Mentor for

Young Moms, and I'm here to help you

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get a grip on your own screen time

so you can be present, intentional,

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and live a more fulfilling life.

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Welcome to the Mindful With Media Podcast.

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Well, I mostly speak to young moms

and helping you as a young mom,

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keep your own screen time and check.

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I've found that a lot of you have

your own business and you use

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Instagram to market your own business.

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So today I'm going to be sharing

four things that you can do to keep

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your social media use under control

when you need it for your business.

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The very first step is to

get clear on what you value.

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Think about what really matters to you.

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Is it your relationship with your kids

or your relationship with your spouse?

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Maybe your mental health.

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Maybe your spirituality.

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This could be anything.

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And one way to really figure out what

is most important to you is to set a

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timer for three minutes and then just

write down everything that comes to mind.

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That's important to you.

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And then you can go back through

and identify the top five things

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that matter most to you right now.

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And what matters most to you

will probably change over time.

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But just really take a step back

and remember what you care about.

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It's so easy to get caught up in the nitty

gritty of running your business, that

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you forget why you're doing what you do.

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It's easy to forget.

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The reason that you started your

own business in the first place.

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So take a step back and get clear

on what matters to you as a person.

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And kind of within this first step

of getting clear on what you value.

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I also take some time to.

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Note.

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W why you have your business?

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What's the purpose of your business?

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Is it to make you a

certain amount of money?

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And if so, why do you

want to make that money?

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Is it to.

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Be able to go on vacations with your kids.

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Or maybe the purpose of your business

is so that you can have an outlet.

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That's a fun creative outlet for you

so that you can be there for your kids.

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But just take a step back and remember

what the purpose of your business

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is, and that will help you to be more

intentional with how you use social media.

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The second step that can really help

you to keep your social media use under

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control when you use it for your business.

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Is to identify which tasks

are actually necessary.

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And.

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I will be teaching a mastermind.

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Next week, all about this,

and we'll do some more things

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that will really help you to.

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Identify the things that are

actually helping your business grow.

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But one thing that you can do right

now is to write down all of the things

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you do when you're on social media.

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So.

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Do you watch stories?

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Do you respond to DMS?

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Do you post, do you comment

on other people's posts?

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Do.

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You respond to comments on your own posts.

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Do you save trending audio?

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Do you scroll to get ideas for posts

you could do or for marketing strategy?

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Do you scroll and like pictures

from people that you know and love.

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I just make a, a huge list of all

of the things that you are actually

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doing when you're on social media.

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And then after you have this list and

you can limit yourself, like set a

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timer and only give yourself 90 seconds

or something to write everything down.

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So then after you have your

list of everything you do.

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Keeping your values in

mind from step number one.

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On a scale of one to five, identify

how necessary each of these tasks are.

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So uh, one would mean

it just wastes your time.

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And a five would mean

that this is crucial.

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Whether for you or for your business.

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And.

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You get to decide what is necessary.

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And this can just help you kind of

see which tasks are most important

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and which tasks are least important.

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And then you can decide.

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What things you want to let go of

that might not be actually moving

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the needle in your business.

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I recently went to a training.

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I serve in my church.

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And one of the things that we

talked about in the training.

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Was that.

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You will get to a point in life when

there's more to do than you have time for.

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And.

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That can be hard to accept, right?

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That's not always the most

comfortable thing to realize.

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You've probably felt this in your

business where you have so many

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ideas or you have so many things that

you feel like you should be doing

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To show up on social media or to grow your business in certain ways.

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And.

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The thing is.

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You can't and don't have

time to do everything.

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And so you have to choose.

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Those things that are actually.

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growing your business and the

ways that matter most to you.

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And like I said, I'll be teaching

a mastermind next week where

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we'll do some more things that

will really help you to identify.

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How to spend your time in ways

that will actually help you.

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Do whatever you want to do in your

business, whether that's make money

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or whether that's really help people

in a certain way, or whether that's

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grow your following, whatever it is.

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I'll help, you know what the

needle movers are in your business.

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The third step that can help you keep

your social media use under control.

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When you use it to market,

your own business is to treat

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social media like a classroom.

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So I think of it this way.

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I think about having two

roles when I'm on Instagram.

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The first role that I have whenever

I open the Instagram app is I

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think of myself as a teacher.

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So that would be doing things like posting

ideas that I have or commenting and.

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Sharing things or.

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Responding to DMS.

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And then the other role that

I think of myself as having,

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When I get on Instagram is.

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The student.

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So, this is where I learned

things, whether that's about.

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Business and marketing, or also just

learning things about parenting or running

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or other things that I'm interested in.

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So that's when I do things

like I'm scrolling and I'm.

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Looking at posts or watching reels.

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Or saving, trending audios or.

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Getting ideas.

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And this concept of thinking of

myself, either as a teacher or as a

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student, when I'm on the Instagram app.

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Has really helped me too.

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Change my view of social media as

a place, I view it as a classroom.

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And.

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I'm more likely to treat it that way.

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And not just get on whatever.

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When I think about myself as

going to work like as a teacher

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or going to school as a student.

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So it's really helped me to schedule

certain times to get on social media.

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As a teacher and that's when I go on to

post or to respond to DMS or comments

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or to share things on my stories.

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And then I also schedule other

times to go on as the student.

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And this is when I do things

like intentional scrolling.

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And that's actually step number

four is to schedule times in your

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calendar to intentionally scroll.

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And this is when you scroll with

the intention of doing research

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to get ideas for your business

or for your marketing strategy.

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So how can you be

intentional while scrolling?

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You can get out your laptop

and open a document so that

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you're ready to take notes.

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And then your whole purpose.

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While you're scrolling is to.

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Learn things that can help you in your

business so you can save trending adios.

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You can.

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Brainstorm content ideas.

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Just have your mind open and ready

to just write down any ideas that

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come to you as you're scrolling.

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And.

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You can keep your content

pillars in mind as you scroll so

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that you have a jumping point.

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For content creation, inspiration.

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And within this idea of intentionally

scrolling, I like to have.

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Specific categories for

when I'm saving posts.

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So I have one that's just for general

business ideas or other, and then I have

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another folder when I save posts that

I can save it to content inspiration.

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So if I see a post about good

hook ideas or a certain idea

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that I'd like to copy and.

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Applied to my own niche.

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Another folder that I have

within my saved posts is trending

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audio that I want to use.

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And this just makes it so that when I'm.

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Working in my business.

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It's already all categorized

for me right there.

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, so that I can.

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Have ideas to use.

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At other.

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Folder that I like to use for

my saved posts are niche ideas.

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. So these are posts from people who

are either in a similar niche to me.

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Or they post something about my

niche and I love saving these posts

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so I can look at the comments and

see what kinds of things people are

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saying or asking about the topic.

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And this helps me know what

topics to focus on in the future.

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Some other.

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Folders that you could create too.

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Categorize your saved posts would

be email marketing or legal things

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or stories or podcast or YouTube,

or maybe you're creating a course.

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And.

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Core stuff just.

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Whatever works for you and your business.

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It's really helpful to have.

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Certain folders that you can save post to.

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And this will really help.

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Your time on social media to be

intentional and more than anything.

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When you're actually creating content or

you're actually wanting to use the things

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that you've learned on social media.

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You have your notes right there, that

you've already written the things

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down and you've brainstorm ideas.

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And then you have these categories

of, posts that you can return to

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when you are ready to do whatever

it is that you're working on.

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So ours is a review of

what we talked about today.

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For things that you can do to keep your

social media use under control when

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you use it to market your own business,

first, get clear on what you value.

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Remember why you even started

your business in the first place?

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And the second step is to identify

which tasks are actually necessary

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and which ones you can let go of.

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And then the third step was to

treat social media, like a place

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that you're going like a classroom.

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So think of yourself as either

the teacher, when you get on or

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think of yourself as the student.

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And then the fourth and final step was to

schedule times to intentionally scroll.

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So you can get ideas for your business

and your marketing strategy and all

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have that in a place where you can

access the information later i will

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be holding a three-day mastermind

Where i will teach you how to grow

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your business by only spending 30

minutes a day on instagram and i'll

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teach you exactly what i do to do this

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On the first day, I'll teach you

how to set up work-life boundaries.

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This can be especially hard when your life

is unpredictable and somewhat flexible.

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And your available times to work.

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You don't always know when that

will be, but I will teach you how

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to set up work-life boundaries.

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When that's your situation.

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On the second day this will be more

of marketing strategy and getting

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clear on how to use Instagram in a

way that actually grows your business

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and letting go of any of those.

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Unnecessary things.

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So help you create a content

plan that actually works for you.

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And then on the third day, I'll

teach you how to actually stick to

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the phone boundaries that you set.

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And this is the hardest

part for most people.

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The link to sign up is in the show

notes The last day to sign up is monday

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november 6th at 6:00 pm so make sure

to sign up before then so you don't

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miss this awesome opportunity to join

with other female business owners who

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are right in the thick of this with you