52 | Goal Setting for Business Owners // with Meagan Pinckney
Meagan Pinckney is a mom to (almost) 2 and a goals coach for Christian women.
In this episode we discuss:
- why it's important for business owners to spend time working on themselves
- how to find your personal vision (and why it matters)
- how to set measurable goals that align with your vision
- how to use goals to help you progress without becoming so obsessed that they negatively impact you
- the importance of affirmations when working on your goals
- how to use your personal vision and goals specifically in your business
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Transcript
I've coached nearly 100 women about their
screen time, and here's what I've learned.
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:Women actually don't care about their
screen time, they care about those things
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:that are impacted by their screen time.
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:Their ability to be patient with their
kids, the growth of their business,
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:having time to pursue their creative
dreams, their relationship with their
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:husband, the inner peace that they feel,
their confidence in themselves, their
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:Connection with God, their friendships
not missing out on their kids' childhoods.
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:I'm Alex and I'm here to
help you find inner peace.
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:Enjoy true fulfillment
and be fully present.
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:Welcome to the Mindful with Media Podcast.
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:Alex: I am so excited to have
Megan Pinkney here today, and
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:so will you go ahead and introduce
yourself a little bit, both like
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:personally and also your business?
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:Sure.
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:Meagan: Yes, totally.
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:I'm excited to be here too.
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:So my name is Megan, like you said
and I run the Goalgetter Girls.
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:So my handle is Goalgetter Girls,
but I'm the Goalgetter Girls for
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:all girls and women specifically
in reaching their personal goals.
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:So I'm a goals coach, is what I do
specifically with Christian women.
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:I'm a Latter day Saint.
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:And so I do include that a lot in
the things that I share in the things
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:that I teach because I just think
it's all so included and so connected.
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:And so that's something I talk
about a lot in reaching our personal
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:goals and becoming our best selves.
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:I'm a mom, so I have a almost
two and a half year olds and then
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:I'm due in July with my second.
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:So I like to stay busy in motherhood.
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:But I'm so lucky I get to be a stay
at home mom right now, which I love.
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:So, when I'm not pregnant and feeling a
little better, I love running and hiking,
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:adventuring just all the fun things.
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:Right now, I can't do a lot of those
things, but I enjoy baking, cooking.
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:We also love camping and outdoors
as a family, all sorts of things.
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:Alex: So fun.
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:So we want to, yeah, specifically talk
about like goals for business owners.
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:And I actually think this will be a
really helpful conversation for me because
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:truthfully I grew up like very, , into
goals and into like, I don't know.
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:I just thought it was fun setting goals.
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:But then I would say in the last,
like, I don't know, several years,
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:I've been almost like anti goals,
I think because probably of the way
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:that I was using them was not correct.
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:So I'm actually really excited for this
conversation today to, I don't know,
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:help me get in a better place about
goals, both for myself, but also to
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:help my audience just with, yeah, goals.
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:Goals around business.
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:First I want to start off with
talking or just asking a question.
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:Like why is it important
for business owners to spend
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:time working on themselves?
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:Meagan: I love this question because I
think a lot of times anyone that really,
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:really anyone in any role will make an
excuse to not work on themselves in a
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:way that they feel like it's selfless.
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:Like there'll be like, well, I'm just
dedicating this time to my business.
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:I'm dedicating this time.
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:To my family, I'm dedicating this time.
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:I take care of my mom or whatever it is.
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:So I can't take care of myself
or I don't have the time.
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:I don't have the energy, the resources
because I'm spending them other places.
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:But really it's the opposite because
when we're willing to work on
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:ourselves and sometimes it's not even
time, it's more just intention with.
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:The things that we're already doing.
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:But when we're willing to put that
work into ourselves, we're going to
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:show up better as business owners, as
mothers, as members of our community,
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:as whatever roles you're in, when you're
able to show up as the best version of
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:yourself, you're going to be, you're
going to be able to give so much more.
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:You're going to be so much more present,
so much more passionate, energized.
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:Your cup is going to be full.
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:Like you're going to have so much more.
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:so much more to offer in your
current roles, and you'll probably
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:even be able to take on more
roles as you work on yourself.
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:So really like working on yourself in
this way, not like self care spa night
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:every night, but like really doing
things that fill your cup and help
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:you to be the best version of you.
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:Like that is the most selfless thing
that you can do in any of those
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:roles as a mother, a business owner,
whatever it is, because you'll have
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:more of you to give to other people.
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:Alex: I cannot agree more.
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:And I think I've, I've worked through
that a lot for myself, like, especially
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:in my role as a mom and a caregiver.
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:And so when my son was, he was
like, my kids are 18 months apart.
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:So it was when he was like, I don't
know, one and a half and a few months.
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:And my daughter was like
two or three months old.
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:We hired a regular babysitter.
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:And , I had to work through
so much to be okay with that.
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:And it was, it's exactly
what you're talking about.
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:Where like, I finally got to a point
where I was like, I am not showing
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:up as the mom that I want to be.
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:And so I really need to have some
dedicated time for myself so that
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:I can actually be a better mom.
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:But it felt like initially,
like I'm neglecting my kids.
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:I'm like, you know, Having somebody
else taking care of them, but I
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:totally felt like it's, it really
has helped me when I'm with them.
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:Like I can be totally with them
and actually like, I don't know.
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:Yeah.
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:But I think I'm working through
that with my business because my
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:business is so fulfilling for me.
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:And I think most.
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:Moms who have their own business.
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:It's that way because it's usually
like you're choosing to do it.
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:You know, it's like a fun thing, but I
think it's easy to have like all of my
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:spare time go to my business and like,
you know, just kind of like always
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:chasing that next thing in your business.
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:And I don't know, always
working on things.
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:So I feel like this is a good
reminder for me to be like, okay.
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:And I feel like I've been working on
this, but still like just dedicating
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:times to not work on my business.
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:And I do feel like when I have more
space and time instead of always just
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:like kids business, kids business, then
I have more ideas and it actually like
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:serves my business in the long run.
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:Totally agree.
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:Okay.
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:I would love for you to talk about how.
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:Can you find your personal
vision and why it matters?
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:Meagan: Okay.
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:I love this is one of my favorite
things to do in one on one coaching
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:is like really get clear on like
someone's personal vision, because
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:it can be so different depending
on who you are and what you want.
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:And sometimes we feel like our
vision should be a certain thing.
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:Like we all should.
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:Drink eight glasses of water a day and
we all should Eat, you know eat the
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:same healthy foods and sleep for eight
hours and like we're all like This is
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:the vision of who we all should be But
like really like digging into like who
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:you are and what you need and what you
want and what you prioritize Like finding
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:that vision is so key before you've
even set any goals because you might be
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:setting goals to reach some vision of
someone else without even realizing it.
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:If you haven't really taken the
time to find your own vision.
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:And one of the ways that I love
to like walk people through that.
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:Is walking them through a day in
the ideal version of themselves.
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:Like from the moment that they
wake up, like what time is the
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:best version of you waking up?
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:And is that person like
waking up to an alarm?
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:Are they waking up to their kid crying?
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:Like there's no right or wrong answer.
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:Like, When does the best
version of you wake up?
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:And then just going through
every step of the day.
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:Like what is the best version of you eat?
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:What's the best version of you wear?
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:You know, like just those little things.
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:What does the best
version of you prioritize?
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:And then once you can see that vision
of the best version of you, not on
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:your ideal day, maybe there's some
things that go wrong in your day.
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:It's the ideal version
of you in any given day.
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:Act then finding that vision first before
you set goals that helps you to really
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:find like your why behind your goals
and set more meaningful and productive
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:measurable goals towards that vision.
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:Not something that you like saw on social
media that you feel like you want to try.
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:Because those things can be great too.
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:But like the real meaningful, like deep
personal goals will be reaching that
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:version of you, which I believe is who
you were designed to be, who you were
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:always meant to be, who you really are
without all the fluff and stress and
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:overwhelm that sometimes comes is like
this version of you that you already are,
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:like, you know, who she is when you think
about it, when you think about, you know,
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:what the best version of you Eats for
breakfast like you already know like it
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:that usually something pops mind of like
oh this like this Makes me feel good.
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:It makes me happy It makes me feel
productive and then focusing your
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:goals around that and anytime you
set a new goal Refer back to your
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:vision and be like is this getting me?
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:To this version of me this version that
just feels good and has good days even
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:in hard times Like finding that vision
can really shift your perspective of
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:goals And help you stay motivated when
you're like, why am I doing this again?
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:Oh, yeah, because I want to
achieve this version of myself
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:like the best version I can be
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:Alex: Interesting.
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:Interesting.
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:I actually really liked that
because I was thinking like
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:before, before this interview,
like, I literally did a training.
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:I think it was at the beginning
of the year when like, there was
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:all the things around goal setting
about like why I don't set goals.
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:And when I called it, I think I
called it like how to make radical
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:changes without setting goals.
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:And that's kind of what,
Oh, sorry, backtrack.
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:I was thinking about like why I Yeah,
like why I didn't like setting goals.
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:And I think it's because in my experience,
sometimes I get so focused on the goal
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:in itself, that it's like, it becomes the
end instead of like the means to an end.
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:So I love that, that, like,
Starting with your personal vision
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:of like, what do you even want?
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:Like, what is, yeah, what,
why are you doing this?
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:Like, why are you drinking
eight glasses of water a day?
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:Or why are you eating whatever breakfast?
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:Like, just remember, yeah, I love that.
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:Like, keeping the end in mind
instead of being so caught up
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:with, like, the thing itself.
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:Like, whether or not you're doing it.
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:Totally.
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:I love that.
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:Okay.
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:So with that vision in mind, with your
personal vision, what do you recommend
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:on how to set measurable goals?
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:Meagan: Totally.
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:So I use a method where I set
goals in four different categories.
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:And it's actually something
that I developed over years.
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:And then the church actually came
out with something really similar.
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:The Church of Jesus Christ of But they
did add a category that I didn't have.
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:So initially I had physical,
spiritual and emotional were my
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:three categories that I landed on.
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:And then the church came out with
social as well and emotional.
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:They changed to intellectual.
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:And I know you actually
phrase it as mental.
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:So there's been a few tweaks there,
but the four I created, physical,
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:spiritual, mental, and social.
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:And I think one of the reasons I didn't
have social is because I am totally game
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:to like work on myself and be my hype
woman and then never leave my house.
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:I needed to set social goals too, that
that was an important aspect of my
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:life that I've maybe been lacking in.
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:And so.
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:I really think that all four
of these categories really
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:connect and tie together.
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:And they really, just like being the
best version of you will impact how
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:you show up in each of your roles, how
you're doing physically is going to
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:affect how you're doing mentally and
how you're doing mentally is going to
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:affect how you're doing spiritually.
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:Like they're all connected.
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:And the more like, well balanced, we
can be like, you wouldn't think it, But
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:having like good social relationships is
going to help you improve your mile time.
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:Like it's just, you know what I mean?
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:It's all so intertwined
and interconnected.
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:And so setting goals in four
different categories, and
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:these are the measurable goals.
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:So these are the ones that
are totally concrete non
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:negotiable if you did it or not.
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:It's not.
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:I want to be a better friend.
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:It's I want to reach out to three friends
this month or I want to you know It's
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:something really specific that you can
measure So I set goals in these four
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:different categories and then with that I
pair it with affirmations So we'll talk a
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:little bit about affirmations in a minute.
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:But So setting yearly goals, I think a
lot of people do like setting their New
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:Year's resolutions, but I think a key
in actually achieving those and staying
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:motivated all year long is setting
monthly goals in all four categories.
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:And so I actually use like a
goal setter is what I call it.
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:That helps me keep track of my goals
and I try to review it every single day.
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:So I'm reviewing my yearly goals
and my monthly goals every day.
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:And sometimes the monthly goals are
measurable goals that are kind of like
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:a bite sized piece of a yearly goal.
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:Like one of my yearly
goals is to read 12 books.
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:I'm trying to get into
reading a little more.
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:So one of my monthly goals
every month is to read one book.
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:So like, you know, it's like a
bite sized version of my goal.
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:Alex: Yeah.
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:Meagan: But other times it's
just like, okay, like this is
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:the month before I have a baby.
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:So one of my physical goals right
now is to have a 10 minute like
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:labor prep stretch every night.
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:So that's not necessarily
part of like a bigger goal.
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:It's just like what I need
right now in this moment.
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:And so setting goals that way, like helps
you to adjust your goals month to month.
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:It helps you to break down your New
Year's goals so that, you know, in
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:September, you're not like, shoot, I
said, I was going to read 12 books.
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:I've read zero.
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:So that's a lot more, you know, like
it helps you to stay on track with your
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:goals and feel motivated month to month
with the different things that you have.
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:Cause as human beings, we're constantly
like, fluctuating in our desires and our
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:motivation and all these different things.
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:And so setting monthly goals will
help meet you where you're at.
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:Maybe your January goals were really
good and you met them all because
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:you were feeling that like New
Year's fire and you reached them all.
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:And then maybe by like April, your goals
are a little bit smaller, but You're
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:being consistent, you're setting your
goals, you're showing up for yourself.
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:And like, that's going to be way more
impactful in the long term anyways,
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:than setting big goals all the time
and trying to like, wear yourself out
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:really, and feel burnt out by your
own goals, like adjusting them, maybe
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:like some months it's going to be a
lot less than other months, but that's
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:why setting them every single month
can help you to stay on track and stay
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:consistent within those measurable goals.
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:Does that
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:Alex: all make sense?
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:Yes.
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:And I totally love that because I
totally agree where it's like, I am,
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:my life is so like, it fluctuates
so much that the idea of setting
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:a goal for a year, I'm like, what?
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:That just feels like,
yeah, like way too much.
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:The other thing I was thinking about,
I was actually just thinking about this
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:like last week, because in January, like
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:even though like the world is setting
goals, like I'm kind of still in
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:like, I don't know, just that winter
mode of just like more slowness and
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:things like that, but as the, the
weather's been getting warmer and it's
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:like the, the growth time of year.
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:This is when I'm like, Ooh,
like I want to start doing this
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:and I want to start doing that.
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:And so I don't know how that relates
at all, but I just have been thinking
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:about like, I don't know, just
doing goals differently, I guess.
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:And just leaning, I guess, kind
of more like you were saying,
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:like your desires change and.
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:Just leaning into, like, what you
want and coming back to that personal
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:division, like, what do you even want?
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:Meagan: No, totally.
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:I feel like that's why monthly goals,
like, has totally shifted my perspective.
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:Because the person that you are in January
is not the person that you were today.
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:And that's never true.
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:The person that I was yesterday
is not who I am today.
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:Like, I've had different experiences.
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:You know, and so like, that's
all my goals and what I said.
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:And that's another thing I love
about the four categories too, is
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:like, maybe in January you're in this
like slow mode and your goals might
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:be more like spiritually focused.
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:Maybe it's like diving into the scriptures
and then maybe you're like doing that
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:really good for a couple of months.
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:And then by like March, you're like,
I feel like I need to move more.
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:And so, you know, your
spiritual goal stays.
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:Like, I want to see.
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:still do my 10 minute scripture study,
but I really want to incorporate like
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:30 plus maybe 40 minutes of exercise
five times a week or whatever.
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:And like your physical goals, you
might have like four or five physical
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:goals and one or two spiritual
goals, you know, and that's okay
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:for it to like, go back and forth.
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:That's how you find balance.
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:throughout the year is by focusing
on different things at different
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:times throughout the year.
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:Like it's not focusing on
everything equally all the time.
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:Alex: Yeah.
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:Meagan: What you need right then.
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:And then readjusting and
reevaluating every month.
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:Like, okay, I'm doing really good
in that, but I feel like I haven't
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:connected with my spouse as much and
I really want to work on date nights.
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:You know, like it going
to constantly love that.
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:Yeah.
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:I
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:Alex: love that so much.
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:Something that like I would love
to discuss is I think it can be
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:easy to base your value on how
you're doing with your goals.
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:What advice do you have, or I don't know,
thoughts you have on this topic of like,
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:how to use goals to help you progress,
but not use goals to like, beat yourself
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:up or become so like, obsessed with
them that they negatively impact you?
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:Does that make sense?
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:Totally.
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:Meagan: This is another reason I love
monthly goals because like maybe your
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:goals are just too big, you know,
like some people I meet with them and
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:they're like, this month I'm going
to launch an entire business and run
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:a marathon and like travel the year.
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:Like they just have like these
huge goals, like, and they're like,
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:and I want to do this every month
and continue it for my whole life.
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:And I'm like, wow, like.
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:I want that for you too.
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:Like if that's within your,
like, and like, go for it.
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:But a lot of times, like maybe
you'll set your monthly goals.
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:And if like, by the end of the
month, you're like, I didn't
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:hit a single one of these goals.
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:Like, okay, then the next month let's go
back and let's look at what you're doing,
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:what you really want to be doing, what
you prioritize the most and start with.
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:Simple, simple goals.
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:Like start with simple habits.
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:Yeah.
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:Because sometimes and a lot of times even
with people that are already that like go
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:getter personality, you're doing so much.
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:And sometimes what you're doing,
like you need to write that as a
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:goal with a little checkbox next
to it so that you can already see,
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:like, like it sounds silly, but maybe
you're like, make my bed every day.
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:And you're like, I already do that.
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:But by the end of the month, you're
gonna be like, yeah, I made my bed.
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:Every day like check like that
is something that I do that not
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:everyone does like we all have
our different things that we do.
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:And so recognize what you're doing
always and that's one of the things in
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:my goal setter to at the six month mark
I have a little like six month review
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:like and part of it is what have you
accomplished this year that wasn't a goal.
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:Because there are always things that
you're accomplishing and doing and
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:completing that we never even set
our minds to, but we did, you know.
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:Alex: Yes, 100%.
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:Meagan: We put our energy towards it.
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:So I think that, you know, adjusting
your goals and reviewing on what
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:you're actually doing can be helpful.
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:And then as well as affirmations.
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:I feel like ties into this and using
affirmations with your measurable goals,
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:because sometimes you won't reach these
concrete measurable goals that you set.
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:And that's where affirmations can
really help you remember your vision
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:and your why and remember that.
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:Your effort is really all you're
shooting for in the end, right?
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:Like sometimes we have these
goals, but like the journey
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:is like what you're in it for.
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:Like that's where the real progress
and growth and even fulfillment,
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:when you remind yourself that
that's where it should come from
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:is the progress, not the results.
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:And so using really powerful,
like self talk and I am statements
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:can really help you with that.
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:I don't know if you want to talk, like
just dump into affirmations or what?
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:No.
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:Alex: Yeah,
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:Meagan: totally.
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:Alex: Well, two things really quick
that you made me think of Oh, just
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:like you said, like, even if you like,
don't complete any of your goals, it's,
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:it's not about completing the goals.
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:It's about, yeah, like you say,
the progress and the learning
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:that comes going for your goals.
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:It reminds me, we're doing the, 1, 000
hours outside challenge this year and
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:Jenny, the founder of that, she always
says like, even if you fail, you win.
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:Cause even if you're like trying to
spend a thousand hours outside and
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:you only get however many hours, you
still spent time outside with your
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:family and had fun and made memories.
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:It's like, it's not
about the thousand hours.
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:It's about the.
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:Time outside with your family, you know,
it's not about the running the marathon.
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:It's about the, the getting into habits
and taking care of your body and the,
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:the endorphins, you know, and like the,
the way you show up because you exercise,
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:it's not about the goal in and of itself.
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:And then the other thing I was thinking
as you were talking is just I feel like
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:for myself, I can feel a difference if
I'm a setting a goal because I, I want
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:to be more like I'm not enough already.
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:So I'm like, Oh, if I run this marathon,
then I will be worthy or I'll be better
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:or I'll be almost like my value is tied
to achieving that goal where I feel
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:like I, I can set the same goal, but
feel different where it's like, no,
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:I'm doing this because it sounds fun.
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but I know that even if I don't
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:reach that goal, I am already enough.
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:I don't have to, to achieve
that, to become a better person.
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:Like I am worthy as I am.
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:So with that, I would love to dive
into the affirmation because I think
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:that's where you were getting with this.
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:So yeah.
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:Tell me more about affirmations.
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:Meagan: No.
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:And that's like exactly
what an affirmation is.
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:Right.
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:An affirmation is like setting that
measurable goal of like, I want to run a
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:marathon and then like, I mean, I don't
set an affirmation with every single
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:goal, but like, just like you said,
the affirmation with that is like, I am
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:enough as I am, and I'm working better
version of me, you know, like then not
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:hitting that goal when you, like, I
signed up for a half marathon and I was
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:training for it and then I couldn't do it.
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:And like, part of me was like, Failure.
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:I was like, . I was like,
I need look at a girl.
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:And I didn't do it like I had to back out.
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:It wasn't safe for me and my baby.
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:Like what the heck I was feeling so
like disappointed, but like my why or
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:even like my affirmation behind that
is like, I'm taking care of my body
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:and I wanna have a healthy pregnancy.
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:Like that's what the goal Yeah.
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:Really was.
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:Like the me school goal, the like
one that you can put on paper
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:that looks nice and neat was that
I wanted to run a half marathon.
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:The reason behind that was because
I was doing something I enjoyed.
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:I was taking care of my body.
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:I was trying to stay healthy.
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:I was staying active during
pregnancy, which are all things I
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:can accomplish without accomplishing
the measurable goal that I set
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:Alex: for it.
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:I love that so much.
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:And especially that example of that story.
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:Meagan: And so that's like, that's
why that vision is so important.
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:Like, I had to really like, fall
back on my vision of like, okay,
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:well, the best version of me,
what is she going to do when, when
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:she can't run the half marathon?
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:Like what, what is she, is she
going to be like, this is stupid
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:and give up and like give in?
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:Or is she going to be like,
okay, well, what can I do?
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:And I started like YouTubing,
like, Chair workouts, like,
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:actually do that were within my power
that did meet, you know, staying
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:active and doing my best and all
those good, warm, fuzzy things.
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:Alex: And you're Sorry, yeah, just like,
and you're why behind, behind the goal
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:of like, you wanted to be healthy for
yourself and healthy for your baby.
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:I just love that where it's like, it
wasn't healthy for you and your baby to
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:run the half marathon, even though that's
what you thought would keep you healthy.
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:Like, that's so cool.
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:Meagan: Like that wasn't, it
wasn't in alignment anymore.
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:Like it was originally like,
it was great just running.
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:And then suddenly, like very quickly,
actually, it wasn't the same thing.
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:Like being healthy and running the
half marathon were not the same thing.
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:And to me, being healthy is
way more important than getting
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:a t shirt, you know, like,
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:I was like, okay, no, like the
baby is like, actually, like,
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:I care way more about this.
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:And so with affirmations, like I
don't actually write affirmations
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:for every single goal, but it can
be helpful in times like that when
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:you're like looking at like, okay,
like, why am I so disappointed?
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:Point is that I didn't reach this goal.
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:What was I actually working towards?
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:Like what, what qualities, what
attributes was I working towards?
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:And then as a general rule, I
set monthly affirmations that
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:just helped me with the month.
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:And sometimes I keep them month to month.
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:I'm like, yeah, I could
still use that one.
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:And like, I have some memorized because
so my affirmations, I write them in my
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:goal setter, which I look at every day.
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:And then I also write
them down in a journal.
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:And I try to say them out loud.
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:I don't always do that when there's
someone else around, because sometimes I
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:feel silly and my husband's working from
home and I'm like, I'm making change.
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:Like one of my favorite affirmations
that I've used a lot of times is I am the
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:wife and mother I've always wanted to be.
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:And so like saying that out loud with
my husband around feels a little silly
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:because I've done it for you twice.
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:And he might be like, this is who
you've always wanted to be, but like
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:seeing that every day and then looking
at my goals, like I'm the wife and
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:mother I've always wanted to be.
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:And then looking at my measurable
goals of writing in my journal reading
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:my scriptures, working out every
day, it like takes on a new meaning.
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:Like I'm doing it because I'm the wife
and mother I've always wanted to be.
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:Like I need to be the best
version of myself for them.
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:Alex: I love that.
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:With affirmations, how do you,
I don't know how to say this
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:another way, but like, how do you
believe the things you're saying?
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:Totally.
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:Does that make sense?
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:Because sometimes I say things that I'm
like, this is just silly, like, I just
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:feel dumb saying this, but like, what
are, yeah, do you have any advice on like,
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:how to believe the things you're saying?
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:Meagan: No, I get that question a
lot actually, so it's something I've
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:kind of pondered and I do think that
when you're doing it right, it should
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:feel a little silly at first, , like
if you haven't done affirmations
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:or haven't ever loved affirmations,
then when you first start doing them
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:consistently, it almost should feel silly.
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:Like you should be stretching
yourself a little bit.
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:But if it just feels like completely
unbelievable, like, like you're
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:like, I just, that's not who I am.
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:Then, like, sometimes that means,
like, you should scale it back and look
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:at, like, Okay, let me find something
that I do believe about myself.
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:Like, maybe maybe you're,
like, your affirmation of, I am
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:punctual and show up on time.
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:You're like, I'm not, though.
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:I am late everywhere I go.
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:I'm never on time.
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:That just isn't true to me.
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:Well, are you consistent?
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:Maybe your affirmation
is, I am consistent.
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:And I prioritize what's most
important to me and maybe that's
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:not being on time right now.
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:Maybe that's not your affirmation.
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:Yes.
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:If your affirmation right now is I'm
consistent, every day I show up 15
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:minutes late or whatever it is, you know,
but focusing on those positive aspects
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:that you can believe about yourself.
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:Like, well, I am doing this.
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:Like sometimes it comes to
our physical attributes.
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:Like if saying like, I am so beautiful
and my body is worthy of love and
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:acceptance for some people that's.
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:So far out of reach.
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:And so for an affirmation, like find
one thing that you love about yourself.
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:Like, I love my eyelashes.
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:And I embrace them, you know, like
starting wherever something's small and
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:then building from there and just getting
that little stretch where you're like,
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:that still feels awkward to compliment
myself, or that still feels awkward to
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:acknowledge the good that I am doing.
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:Like that's okay.
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:If it feels a little silly and
then just stretching yourself.
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:So that you're constantly like getting
more comfortable talking about the person
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:that you want to be, and that you can be
like, I genuinely believe that anyone can
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:become anyone that they want to, and they
choose who they are every single day.
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:Like maybe today you are going
to be your affirmation and you're
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:going to nail it, you know?
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:And so you got to keep like pushing
yourself and stretching yourself,
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:even when it feels silly, because.
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:Telling yourself every day, I'm the wife
and mother I've always wanted to be,
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:versus I am always fighting with my spouse
and I never give my child the attention he
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:deserves, that's not the mom I want to be.
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:And telling myself that isn't
going to make me a better mom.
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:But reminding myself that I'm the wife
and mother I've always wanted to be, then
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:maybe in the middle of losing my crop.
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:I will have that come to my mind because
I've said it so many times and I'll take
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:a deep breath and I'm like, okay, that
wasn't the wife and mother I wanted to be.
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:So who can I be right now?
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:And I'm like, okay, let's start
with an apology and a hug and you
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:know, affirmation because it will
become part of that natural self
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:talk after so much repetition.
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:Alex: Yes.
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:I love that so much.
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:That's something that I have done
with my clients is just, yeah.
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:If they don't believe something that, you
know, the affirmation, I don't usually.
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:Use that word, but if they don't believe
the affirmation, it's like, okay,
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:let's work on those underlying beliefs.
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:Like what?
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:Yeah.
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:What do you believe?
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:What shifts can we make in your beliefs
that you actually believe instead of
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:yeah, just like saying something to
yourself that you don't actually believe.
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:So I love that.
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:I'm just like, yeah, stretching it, but
like shifting those underlying beliefs.
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:And, like you say, just the power of
words, like, if you are always saying,
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:Oh, I, I always blow up on my kids.
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:I always do this.
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:I always do that.
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:It's like, that's a self
fulfilling prophecy.
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:Like, the more you say things,
my husband and I talk about this
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:all the time of just like being
really careful of like what we say.
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:And it's something I'm actively
working on, but like, even like,
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:How we want to view finances, where
I think we used to always be like,
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:Oh, like that's so expensive, or
this is so expensive or whatever.
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:And it's like, you know, like, I
don't want to think that's expensive.
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:Like, I don't, I don't
want to view life that way.
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:I don't know.
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:I said, just, I feel like that's a little
bit different, but just, yeah, I'm just
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:being very aware of like the things you
say about yourself and about others and
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:about the way that you live your life.
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:It's really powerful, like it
impacts you more than you, you think.
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:Meagan: Like I always say, you're
already using affirmations.
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:Everyone's already using them.
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:You're probably not loving the
affirmations that you're giving
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:yourself, but you're affirming beliefs.
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:I am so tired.
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:I'm so exhausted.
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:I'm so overwhelmed.
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:I'm so overstimulated all the time.
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:I'm always behind on the laundry.
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:All affirmations.
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:Are they affirmations?
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:Are they that you want?
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:Is that like something that
you wanna be and become?
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:Probably not . And so like looking
those into, I'm feeling tired, so
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:I'm gonna prioritize my energy today.
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:Like, you know, like,
what can you focus on?
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:Like, where can you put that?
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:That's what you want.
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:That's who you want to be like.
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:Yeah.
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:Alex: And I'm definitely, I love that
you're already using affirmations.
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:You just don't know it.
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:You just, okay.
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:That's good.
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:Okay.
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:So I'd love to talk about like,
kind of taking the things that
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:we've talked about and how can
someone apply both like the personal
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:vision and goals to their business?
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:Meagan: Yes, I mean, I think
it's all connected just like
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:the four different categories.
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:Like if you run an operative business
or you want to start a business, like
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:that's likely part of your vision.
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:And if it's not, maybe you should think
about why you're starting a business.
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:You know, like really evaluate,
like, is this something that
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:I want to do or continue doing
if you already have a business?
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:Like making sure it's all connected.
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:It's in line with your vision.
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:I think sometimes it can be caught up
in like, because I feel like I need
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:to financially contribute instead of
this is what I really want to be doing.
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:You know, like finding that passion
and making sure it's in line with
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:your vision will remind you why you're
putting work in, which is important
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:when you're already busy with a bunch
of things, like remind yourself why
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:you're doing it, why you care about it,
why you get excited about what you do.
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:And then from there, like you can
set personal goals that will help
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:you directly with your business too.
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:Like while we should work on ourselves
and that will naturally affect our
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:business and the rest of our lives you
can include your business in your vision
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:and your goals and your affirmations.
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:Like if you are a coach of any
kind, like Put that in your
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:affirmations when you're really
working on your business that month.
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:I am an influential coach to
hundreds of people or I am
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:going to reach one person today.
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:I am, you know, whatever it is
that you're like, I really want
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:to do this, like include that in
your goals and in your vision.
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:And that energy that you're creating
from your personal goals will transfer
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:into like, Your vision for your
business as well and you can do a whole
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:like you can set your personal goals
and your business goals, you know,
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:like, and have just totally like a
business affirmation, business, monthly
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:goals, business, all these things.
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:One thing though, that I'll mention
with goals that I haven't mentioned
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:yet is that when these things are
measurable, we need to make sure they're
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:always, always in our control, 100%.
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:And so setting a goal, like I
want to reach 5, 000 followers.
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:Not in your control.
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:You could say, I want to post five times
a week in your control, you can do it.
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:And hopefully, maybe you're
hoping to have more followers,
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:more reach, whatever it is.
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:But like hoping for like setting
even financial goals, I think can be
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:sometimes a red flag because again,
you might be tying your worth to
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:them and you can't influence them.
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:Maybe you're saying I'm going to make.
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:1, 000 in sales, 10, 000 in sales.
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:But in reality, you can choose what
you post, where you focus your time.
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:Who you're reaching out to, what
connections you're making, but you can't
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:press that pay button for somebody else,
you know, and so when setting goals,
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:specifically in business, it's important
to remember that you're setting goals in
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:your control, 100 percent doesn't require
anyone else to accomplish those goals.
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:Alex: I think that is so important.
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:And it actually, one of my first business
mentors and she was talking about this.
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:I think I was working on some offer or
something and had wanted to have some goal
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:for how many people like join this offer.
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:And she just recommended like, instead
of having a goal for how many people
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:join the offer, have a goal for how
many, times you talk about the offer.
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:And that was so helpful for me.
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:So she, I even had like a spreadsheet
of like talking about a hundred times.
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:And so like, like you say, that was
something I could control and it would
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:influence how many people signed up,
you know, but yeah, I, I love that.
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:Like focusing on things.
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:That are completely in your control
and it just feels better to you know,
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:it doesn't feel good to Control things
that are outside of your control.
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:Meagan: Yeah Like staring at a sales
number and like refreshing it and hoping
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:and praying that like people are gonna
buy it Like that feels so like Helpless,
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:like there's nothing you can do.
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:Looking at like your posts for the
month or whatever and being like,
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:okay, like this posted really well.
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:I can post this.
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:I can share this.
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:I can, it gives you like an
action item behind the goal.
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:Like having a goal that you can't directly
work towards, like that's going to end up
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:feeling really like frustrating and scary.
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:Like it's not in your control.
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:You can't, you can't choose
to achieve it, you know?
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:Alex: Totally.
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:And this is something that I end up
working with, with my clients who,
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:Cause I focus on business owners who
use social media and just how it's
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:really easy to get caught up in like
the external results of like, well, my
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:content was doing well, but like now
I'm not getting as much engagement.
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:And it's like, it's not about that.
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:You know, like, like I like to only
look at the insights of my posts,
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:like either a week at a time or a
month at a time to see like what.
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:What people are responding to
like as data, but not as like
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:like a description of my value.
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:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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:Perfect.
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:A measure of success.
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:It's like data for what's going to
work, but not a measure of success.
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:Yes, totally.
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:Exactly.
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:I love that.
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:Okay.
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:If somebody only takes one thing away
from this call today, what would that be?
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:What would you want them to take away?
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:Meagan: Probably that working
on yourself is selfless.
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:And it's never too late to start.
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:Ever.
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:Like, you can start, Happy New Year.
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:There are 365 days between
now and next June 5th.
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:Now is a great time to set
some goals and sit down.
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:And like, give yourself a break.
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:self and the people around you the
version of you that you deserve like you
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:deserve to be so happy with who you are
and so happy with how you're showing up
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:physically mentally spiritually socially
like you deserve to love yourself and like
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:that might feel crazy or weird or silly or
even ostentatious to say but like you do
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:like you deserve to love like who you are
and you're worth working towards, even if
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:you feel like you're starting too late.
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:There is no such thing.
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:Like jump in and give yourself
the attention that you deserve.
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:Alex: Okay, I love that so much.
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:So beautiful.
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:Where can my listeners find you
and how can they work with you?
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:Meagan: So my Instagram is goal.
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:getter.
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:girls and my website is
goalgettergirls with an s dot com.
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:So that's where you can book any
like coaching sessions with me
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:or get one of my goal setters.
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:But I'm on Instagram, so anyone
can send me a DM or connect with
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:me over there, comment, and we can
connect that way and see like what
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:would be most helpful for them.
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:Alex: Okay, perfect.
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:I love that.
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:Yeah, I definitely
recommend following Megan.
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:I've been following you and
I just, I love your content.
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:It's very uplifting and real.
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:So highly recommend following Megan and
I'll link those in the show notes as
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:well here, Instagram and your website
