Episode 64

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Published on:

9th Oct 2024

64 | Live Coaching Call: Helping Jamee brainstorm mini offer ideas

If you apply this process in your business, you will make consistent money. Tune in to hear me help Jamee (@makeitadate_) come up with mini offer ideas for her business.

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I've coached nearly 100 women about their screen time,

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and here's what I've learned.

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Women actually don't care about their

screen time, they care about those things

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that are impacted by their screen time.

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Their ability to be patient with their

kids, the growth of their business,

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having time to pursue their creative

dreams, their relationship with their

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husband, the inner peace that they feel,

their confidence in themselves, their

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Connection with God, their friendships

not missing out on their kids' childhoods.

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I'm Alex and I'm here to

help you find inner peace.

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Enjoy true fulfillment

and be fully present.

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Welcome to the Mindful with Media Podcast.

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For this week's episode, I got to do

a live coaching call with Jamie who

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has a business called make it a date.

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And you'll hear more later

about her business, but.

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The last couple of weeks., the podcast

I've been talking about many offers.

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And what and why they are so

powerful and so important.

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And then last week I kind of talked about.

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How to.

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Come up with many offer ideas,

how to create a mini offer.

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And then today ., you'll

get to see it in action.

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My process for coming up

with mini offer ideas.

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So, , if you haven't already listened to

the last couple of weeks episodes about

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many offers, those can be really helpful.

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Before you listened to today's.

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I feel like everyone on their

podcast always says without

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further ado, let's start.

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The episode or somebody like that.

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So, Without further ado.

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Let's.

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I don't even know here's

the coaching call.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay,

let's kind of jump right into things.

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I I'm gonna share Google Docs so that I'll

ask you questions and you'll do most of

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the talking and I'll Take all the notes

and then I'll make them all pretty and

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send it to you So you can worry about

like taking notes and talking at the same

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jamee: That makes my job easier.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay, so I

want you to start off like I kind of

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know your business But I want you to just

start off by telling me like what your

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business is and kind of your why behind it

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jamee: Okay.

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So my business is bringing couples

back together and with date nights,

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conversation starters, or little

challenges and finding pockets of

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time to connect with your spouse.

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Because life naturally gets busy and it's

kind of hard to find these little pockets

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of time to bring that focus back to each

other because that's where it kind of

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all started was with, with each other.

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So I, I try to help couples remember that.

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And typically when couples go on

a date, they kind of are like, Oh

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yeah, I remember why I like you.

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And so I, I like that part

of helping couples in their

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relationship remember that,

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Alex | Mindful with Media: I

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jamee: The why behind it is date

nights specifically weren't a habit

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of my husband and I's like, we

didn't really go on date nights.

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We kind of felt like, like we were

fine, like we were doing good.

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And my parents actually divorced when

we were seven years into our marriage.

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So it kind of.

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Made me stop and pause and reflect.

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on my own marriage and I was kind of

realizing I was living in this state of

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I guess you could call it contentment.

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Like I was just like it's

fine, but we could also do

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better and That's what I want.

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So I decided that I wanted to be

active in my marriage and make it

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more of a priority than it was.

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So we started with date night, which

was really actually hard for us.

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It was a really super awkward

stage for us to get back into

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date nights with each other.

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And We kept trying and failing, trying

and failing and it's still kind of a

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trial and error, but we have slowly

found that we really just crave having

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connection and that's, and it doesn't even

have to be like a full blown date night.

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It's just like little,

little time to connect.

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So we still love date night because

it gives us one on one time for sure.

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And it has just brought us like, it almost

brought our friendship back into our.

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Marriage.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: love that.

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jamee: That's kind of the way.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

so so good and so helpful.

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So I think, yeah, so we'll, we're

going to come up with many offers

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and I don't know like how much you've

heard me talk about many offers.

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The way that I view them are like, we

have like our Instagram content that

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is a way to like serve and help people.

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And then we usually, depending, I don't

know where you, what your business

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model is right now, but typically we

have like bigger offers that are maybe

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more one on one things or, oh, don't

you do like personalized date plans

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or something like that, really like.

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jamee: I do right now.

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And I've kind of dabbled in a few things.

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Like I've done date boxes where

like I make a date and ship it

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to you and you do it at home.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: cute, cute,

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jamee: So that's been fun.

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And I'm right now I'm currently doing

the custom date plans where I send

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them, send a couple of questionnaire.

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They bring it back to me.

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I kind of match a few date ideas for them.

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And then they, they have a date, but

really you can make it into three

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dates and just have it for that

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Alex | Mindful with Media: just

like do the same one kind of thing?

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Is that

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jamee: Yeah.

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Well, like you can take, like,

I make it to where it's like,

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there's your main activity.

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Here are three other

things that you can do

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Alex | Mindful with Media: oh, cool,

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jamee: If you want to continue

your date or use this for

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Alex | Mindful with Media: split

it up and cool, cool, okay.

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I actually think this would be helpful.

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So what are some of, yeah, either your

current offers or previous offers?

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So you said date box, like ship

it to you, date box personalized

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jamee: Yeah, personalized dates.

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I've also done what would you call it?

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I've also like, I'm like a booking agent.

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Like I've booked couples dates

before where all they do is show up

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to the place and do the activity.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: how cool is

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jamee: And that was fun.

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Yeah.

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That's really fun.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: So it literally

takes like all of them and to load off of

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jamee: Yes.

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Like you just have to go and do

it and it's all ready for them.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: That's fun.

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Okay.

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Anything else

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jamee: No, not on previous ones.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

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Yeah.

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So kind of like I was saying what I

how I do these mini offers and like

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And a lot of ways you've probably

already done many offers, but it's

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just intentionally planning like, or

creating smaller offers that are like

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a, that bridge the gap between like

free Instagram content and like a paid

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offer or even not even a paid offer,

but like even like a bigger offer that

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takes more of commitment for your person.

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jamee: Yeah.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

like do that in between.

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So that's what I want to

help you brainstorm today.

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jamee: That's awesome.

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That's exactly what I need.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Hey, perfect.

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Perfect.

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Perfect.

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So we'll kind of, depending

on what you want, we can.

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I think first we'll go through the

process and like help you come up

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with a bunch of ideas, but then

depending on what you want help with,

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we can like really flush out one.

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So you have like one that's

like flushed out and ready to

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go, or we can just do a bunch.

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jamee: Okay.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

We'll see how things go.

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So first I want you to tell

me about your ideal client.

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jamee: Man, I have been thinking

about this a lot actually because

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I, I know I speak more to wives for

sure, not necessarily the couple.

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So I would say my ideal client is

a mother and a wife who has been

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married for, I'd say five years plus.

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They have kids and they're kind

of in like the thick of it.

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Like the thick of parenting careers,

if they're going to school, you know,

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it's just kind of like, it seems like

there's a lot going on in their life.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

Yes, I love this.

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Would you say, like, you like working

with people, or it's like somebody who

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feels like their marriage is fine, kind

of like you were, where it was like,

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it's not like your marriage was bad,

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jamee: Right,

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Alex | Mindful with Media: you were

content, like, is that who you like

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jamee: Yeah, I, I think I would,

yes, I think I speak to the wives

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who crave connection with their

spouse, but don't they don't know

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how to communicate it because they

don't want to like what did I say?

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Like they don't want to be not a

burden, but they don't want to put

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anything else on their husband's

plate because life is already so busy.

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And so they feel like they can't have

that need of connection with their spouse

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because it's just going to be too much.

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Does that make sense?

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Alex | Mindful with Media: And, and

it's, it's fine, and she's fine, so it

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jamee: Yeah, exactly.

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Like I'm fine.

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I'm I'll get through this.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Oh, what

else I was going to ask about that?

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Oh, is she aware that she's

craving that connection?

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And not that you have to, like,

be so specific every time you

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talk to someone, you know, I think

you can have this within a range,

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jamee: Yeah, for sure.

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I honestly don't know how

to answer that question.

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I think she feels like she misses her.

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spouse, her husband.

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I think she feels like she misses

them, but she's, she doesn't

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necessarily know that she just

wants that emotional connection.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

hey, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Okay, that is perfect.

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So now what I want to do is just

brain dump some of her problems, which

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you've already kind of touched on,

but Like, for this purpose, kind of

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set your business aside for a minute.

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So, like, don't just think about,

like, in the form of date ideas,

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you know, or things like that.

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Like, just in general, like, what

are some of her obstacles to I

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think, yeah, kind of like getting

this connection with her spouse,

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jamee: I would definitely

say overstimulated.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: okay?

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Yes.

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jamee: she probably feels like a taxi

driver driving her kids everywhere.

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Like she's managing so many schedules.

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So her schedule, Goes way

back to the back burner.

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I think she probably feels

distant, even, not even just with

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their spouse, probably with their

friends too, because it's just so

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she's just putting all of all

of her energy towards like, you

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know, being a wife, a mother.

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A caretaker, buying all the groceries,

being the household manager, basically.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

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jamee: I'd say another

one is that she's tired.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

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Okay.

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Anything else coming to mind

for, like, some obstacles?

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jamee: No, the only one that keeps

popping into my head is like she, she's

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not sure how to say what she wants

or she doesn't know what she wants.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

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Okay.

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That's so good.

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She didn't know what she wants.

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And even then if she does know what

she wants, she doesn't know like

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how to say that to her husband.

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jamee: Yes.

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Yep.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

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Anything else?

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jamee: I think that's all

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Alex | Mindful with Media: So we're

going to go through each of these

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and I want you to dive a little bit

deeper on each of these by asking why,

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and we'll kind of do three for each,

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jamee: Okay.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: So why

is she feeling overstimulated?

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jamee: Okay.

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Why is she feeling over stimulated?

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Just kids at home all day.

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I mean, just being with your

children 24, seven is overstimulated.

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I think,

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

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jamee: and I'd say

overstimulated with thoughts to

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Ooh.

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jamee: you know, you know

what I'm talking about?

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Like just the thought train

just is always running.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

this is so good.

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jamee: Excited.

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I'm excited to see how

it all goes together.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: okay.

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How about I think you, yeah.

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How about feeling like a tax driver?

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Why does,

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jamee: yeah, I'd say like,

just taking kids to practice,

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all the errands she has to run,

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and, yeah, I would say errands is

like, basically everything, right?

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Like getting groceries,

going to the pharmacy.

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Managing so many schedules.

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jamee: So, oh, this one's huge because she

is, She manages her schedule plus her kids

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and then she has to work

around her husband's schedule

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah,

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jamee: try to fit that

all together and make it

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Alex | Mindful with Media: yeah.

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jamee: Yes.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

What's that called?

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Like connect, like make

it all, I don't know.

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jamee: It's all going to function somehow.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

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jamee: And I would

actually put on there too.

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I was just thought about this, but like

scheduling doctor appointments, all

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the futuristic things that are coming

up, like she's thinking about those

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and having to make that schedule too.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: your

dark planes and yeah, just the

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jamee: Yeah,

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

future schedules.

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Yeah, not even like, yeah.

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jamee: in the now, right?

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

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How about her schedule gets

put on the back burner?

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jamee: Okay, so this, I'm thinking like

she wants to do things for like, she

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loves to read, but she never reads.

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So like she can't do her hobbies

that she loves or she's kind of

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forgotten what she loves because

she's been in this mode for so long.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: What else?

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jamee: Let's see.

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She it's okay.

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Hold on.

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Oh, I feel like, and she's so easy

to put her, like have her plans

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fall through, like she has something

scheduled, like lunch with a

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friend and something else comes up.

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She's so quick to just

say, oh, I can't go.

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I got to do this instead.

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Does that make sense?

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I don't know how to

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Alex | Mindful with Media: No, 100%.

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Honestly, this is like, because this is

like, gonna create all of your social

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media content for you to like, for

whatever, because you're already like

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coming up with like specific examples.

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So it's perfect.

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jamee: Well, thank you for helping me.

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Cause I feel like I've just

been so stuck with even just

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

Oh, I'm so glad.

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Has one kind of a fan and something

else comes up and so it gets canceled or

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jamee: Yeah.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: yeah, that's

a good thing that she canceled because

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it puts her in the power, right?

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jamee: Mm hmm.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

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How about, I guess it's kind

of related, but how about

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feeling distant with her spouse?

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jamee: Okay.

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Why, and this is why, right?

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Why is she feeling distant with her

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Why?

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Why is she feeling distant

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jamee: I would say putting the needs of

others before hers for so long, it just,

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it becomes like a, an automatic response.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

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Kind of like that lunch example, right?

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jamee: And she's probably,

like, maybe nervous to,

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I was going to say, have help

or ask for that connection.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: They're

nervous to ask for help or nervous

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to like seek that connection

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jamee: Yeah, yeah, like,

seek that connection.

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And probably because she doesn't

want it to Oh shoot, I just lost it.

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She doesn't want to, oh, be rejected.

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Like, she doesn't want to have that

go out and say, hey, I need this.

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And then it just doesn't work.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

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jamee: happened in the past.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Interesting.

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Do you think that she is afraid

it'll be like outright, like her

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husband will be like, we don't

have time for this or whatever.

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Or do you think it'll be like

he's like, yeah, let's do it.

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But then it just like, doesn't happen

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jamee: Ooh, that's actually

a good question because

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I feel like she fills

in the blank for him.

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Like she automatically says no in her head

because that's the story she's playing.

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Because I think she's asked

before, but very passively, like

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it hasn't been a straight out.

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Let's do this.

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Does that make sense?

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And so, yes, like she's

probably thought she's asked.

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Okay.

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But in, in her spouse's mind, it was

just like a passing of information.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

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Yes.

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I'm laughing because

I've literally done this

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jamee: Oh, dude, this is me.

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Oh, this is absolutely me.

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So, Oh, it's.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: this speaks

too close to home or like, like, yeah, my

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passive comments of like, What did I say?

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I don't know, like, just like

something like, oh, like, I would

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love to go on a date there sometime.

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jamee: Exactly.

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I was just gonna say that.

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Like, wouldn't it be so

fun to go see this movie?

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And their response is, Oh yeah, totally.

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And then nothing happens.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: and

actually, this is another thing,

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but it'd be so fun to go see, yeah.

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Oh shoot, what was I gonna say about that?

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Of like,

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oh, like, not wanting to be the one to

plan it, where it's like, I know that

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I could plan it, but I don't want to.

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I want him to take charge on this.

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Like,

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jamee: Yes.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: okay,

anything else under that, that point

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of feeling distant from her spouse?

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We can even do a separate

line for friends if you want.

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jamee: No, I think,

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I think it could correspond

pretty well, but yes.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

All right, let's see.

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Again, this is similar to what we've

talked about, but all of her energy

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goes to her kids, groceries, being a

chauffeur, being the household manager.

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Why is that?

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jamee: Probably because she

doesn't feel like she can

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ask for help.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: And even like,

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I'm just thinking like those needs are

like so in your face where it's like, If I

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don't buy groceries, we won't have dinner.

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But if I don't go on a date, my

husband's still going to be there.

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Like,

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jamee: And I know for me, and maybe

this is just totally, you know, me,

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but I, I, she probably feels like if

she does delegate it, it won't get

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done the way it's supposed to get done.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: yes, yes.

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Yes.

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jamee: Yeah, I was trying to think.

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Oh, and another one I was thinking of

with this is she feels like she's supposed

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to do all this right like this is.

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This is my motherly duty.

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This is my wife duty.

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I, I'm supposed to have all of this on

my plate and get it done and do it well.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Supposed

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to get it all done.

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So it's almost like her

value is coming from

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jamee: Yeah.

401

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Alex | Mindful with Media: these tasks.

402

:

jamee: Yeah, for sure.

403

:

Scooting because the

light is so, there we go.

404

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Alex | Mindful with Media: I'm tired.

405

:

Why is she tired?

406

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jamee: Okay.

407

:

Definitely, you know, kind of

things in the, we've talked about

408

:

like just schedules being filled.

409

:

I think the, yeah, I was

going to say mental load.

410

:

Yep.

411

:

Mental load for sure.

412

:

And she's probably tired of

probably just stressing about

413

:

the same things over and over.

414

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Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay,

what are some of those things

415

:

that she's stressing about?

416

:

These

417

:

jamee: and feeling like you

are distant from your spouse.

418

:

Feeling like you have nothing in common.

419

:

I hear a lot of couples say that, like,

we have nothing in common anymore.

420

:

Am I being a good mom?

421

:

Is my husband still attracted to me?

422

:

Like, I mean, just so many things.

423

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: are so good.

424

:

Anything else?

425

:

jamee: I was gonna say, do

you want me to keep going?

426

:

Because I mean,

427

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

Yeah, let's do two more.

428

:

jamee: Okay, let's do two more.

429

:

Okay.

430

:

The other things that, that she's

stressing about, I'm honestly

431

:

thinking of like, at night, she's

just thinking and thinking about

432

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Alex | Mindful with Media: asleep.

433

:

Yeah,

434

:

jamee: Yes.

435

:

I would say, you know, is she, Is she

stressing about, am I doing enough?

436

:

And

437

:

I'm just trying to think,

you know, I want to,

438

:

you know, pick up that

painting that I used to do.

439

:

And I just haven't had time, you know,

440

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes, want to.

441

:

Yeah, yeah, I like

442

:

jamee: I'm trying to think of, yeah.

443

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Start

thinking again, but Thank you.

444

:

Okay, those are really, really good.

445

:

Let's do this one.

446

:

She doesn't know what she wants.

447

:

Oh, yeah, this is where we're

talking about how there's like,

448

:

what one girl might like, not

even know she wants connection.

449

:

The other one knows she wants it,

but doesn't know how to say it.

450

:

So

451

:

jamee: So if she doesn't know

She doesn't know what she wants

452

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: like, sure.

453

:

jamee: she hasn't given the,

the, the emotion of name.

454

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

455

:

And I'm even thinking like for myself

I, I wonder if I'm afraid to admit that

456

:

I want that because then I'm afraid

457

:

Like, either I won't get it or

that it'll be much effort to

458

:

get it or something like that.

459

:

jamee: Yes, absolutely.

460

:

I would say a hundred percent

because I have definitely

461

:

been there afraid to admit it.

462

:

Because it requires opening up.

463

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

464

:

It's Vulner vulnerability, right?

465

:

jamee: And I also think it's hard because

she doesn't know what she wants because

466

:

she doesn't want to take responsibility.

467

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes,

468

:

jamee: think that's a really hard one,

but I truly think that she wants it

469

:

not to be her, and it's either him,

or like, kids, schedules, everything

470

:

else that's going on, there's a, you

know, we can point it somewhere else.

471

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: yes.

472

:

No, this is actually,

you're speaking to me, Jamie

473

:

jamee: Well, I'm about to have

this come to Jesus myself, so.

474

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

475

:

So one?

476

:

Yeah, just like one step

point at someone else.

477

:

Okay, she doesn't so now

we're realizing she okay.

478

:

She knows that she wants connection,

but she doesn't know how to go about

479

:

it I'll just say maybe I'll say that

480

:

jamee: Okay,

481

:

she doesn't know how to go about it.

482

:

Okay, and be okay, and this is because

483

:

she probably hasn't practiced

vulnerability doesn't know how to.

484

:

Open that up.

485

:

I'm trying to think I had one

in my head and then I went away.

486

:

Okay.

487

:

She knows she wants more

connection with her husband.

488

:

She doesn't know how to go about it.

489

:

I think that she has a conversation in

her head and fills in the blank already.

490

:

You know, already predicting

what her husband's going to say.

491

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

Oh yeah, let me,

492

:

jamee: I know.

493

:

How do we want to say that?

494

:

She predicts.

495

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

496

:

So how's the conversation in her head

497

:

jamee: Yeah.

498

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: and filled

in a blank automatically predicting.

499

:

jamee: Yes.

500

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: 1000%.

501

:

jamee: he will say.

502

:

And I think she doesn't want,

she honestly, she doesn't want to

503

:

rock the boat in a sense, because

504

:

assuming that he's fine, like all men,

I would maybe not all men, but most

505

:

men typically are like, no life's good.

506

:

Like everything's great.

507

:

So if they're feeling that

way, she doesn't want to mess

508

:

that up by needing something.

509

:

Does that make sense?

510

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Which kind

of comes back to like the earlier things

511

:

of like, maybe that's just, I can't

remember, but just with like her, she

512

:

doesn't want to put her needs first.

513

:

Like she wants to make sure everyone.

514

:

jamee: And I also think she probably.

515

:

thinks her husband can

read her mind, also.

516

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

517

:

jamee: Or she assumes that he should.

518

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

519

:

They comment about, Oh,

wouldn't it be fun to go on a

520

:

jamee: Exactly, see?

521

:

Hint, hint.

522

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: This is like,

not really related, but this was like

523

:

last week, I was saying to my husband,

I don't remember how it came up, but

524

:

I was like, we should go on a date

sometime and either get Picanos or sushi.

525

:

And he was like, that sounds great.

526

:

I was like, okay, so

which one should we do?

527

:

And he was like, I'm thinking either

Takanos or Sushi, and I was like, I

528

:

literally just gave you those two options.

529

:

jamee: Yes.

530

:

Okay.

531

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: But

that's not really what I did.

532

:

Okay.

533

:

jamee: That's too funny though.

534

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: So,

535

:

now, we're gonna go back

through each of these things.

536

:

jamee: Okay.

537

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: what do you

think is the easiest way to do this?

538

:

I think what I'm gonna do is copy these

just so you have them all like together.

539

:

jamee: Okay.

540

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: And then

what we're going to do is we're going

541

:

to going to tell me like an idea for

a solution for each of these points.

542

:

jamee: Oh, dang.

543

:

Okay.

544

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: And we

can always skip them because there's

545

:

obviously a lot that we have to go

546

:

jamee: That'll be similar.

547

:

Okay.

548

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: In

fact, I want to start, let's start

549

:

with the one just because of time.

550

:

Sorry, can you see any of these?

551

:

Which one do you want us?

552

:

I actually,

553

:

I'm going to leave the obstacles up here.

554

:

jamee: Okay.

555

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

Did I not copy that yet?

556

:

Oh, I copied it but I didn't paste it.

557

:

Oh.

558

:

jamee: Yeah, there it

559

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

There it is, right?

560

:

jamee: Yeah.

561

:

Yeah.

562

:

You got it.

563

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

564

:

So then these are

565

:

solutions.

566

:

Okay.

567

:

So of these, I can kind of scroll through

if there's any that stand out to you

568

:

that you want to start with as far as

like ideas that you have for solutions.

569

:

jamee: I kind of want to start

at the bottom, like the one

570

:

that we were talking about.

571

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Let's do it.

572

:

jamee: I feel like this is the biggest.

573

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

574

:

jamee: Having a husband that's not

a mind reader is kind of a big deal

575

:

that wives kind of are like, Oh,

576

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

577

:

It's the most shocking thing.

578

:

I mean, like, I feel like soon

into my marriage, I learned that,

579

:

but it's still like, oh, no,

like I have to actually tell him.

580

:

jamee: totally, totally.

581

:

And I think it's because it's such

a natural thing for wives to do is

582

:

be observant and fill in that need.

583

:

And husbands I've learned

are typically not like that,

584

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

585

:

jamee: but they also want to help.

586

:

But they need the direction to do it.

587

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

588

:

So what would your be, what would

your idea for a solution for that be?

589

:

In fact, I'm going to do these

in, what color should we do?

590

:

Like, do you have a favorite color?

591

:

jamee: My favorite color is yellow, but

I don't know if you'd be able to see

592

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: do

like, we'll do like a deep yellow

593

:

jamee: Okay.

594

:

Okay.

595

:

We'll do deep yellow.

596

:

Okay.

597

:

So this is the part where you

might need to help me out.

598

:

So, okay.

599

:

We're coming up with a solution about

600

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Wait,

let's do like this specific.

601

:

She, if her husband can't read her mind,

602

:

jamee: Okay.

603

:

So we're coming up with a

solution for that, for she can't.

604

:

Okay.

605

:

So,

606

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

prescription be for her?

607

:

jamee: so my prescription

for her would be.

608

:

A few phrases to.

609

:

bring into her I guess vocabulary

belt, phrases to bring into her

610

:

conversations with her husband.

611

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: yeah, yeah.

612

:

jamee: And this would be

613

:

things like, Hey, I have

something to talk to you about

614

:

when is a good time we can sit and talk.

615

:

So that way you are setting the

precedence, like I need your attention

616

:

I need, I want to talk to you.

617

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

618

:

And I, like, I want your attention

619

:

jamee: Yes.

620

:

Another phrase that I

would have her say is,

621

:

I love

622

:

spending time with you.

623

:

I want us to do blank activity

624

:

week.

625

:

What day can we make this work?

626

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: So good.

627

:

jamee: Yes.

628

:

Okay.

629

:

And then maybe one more.

630

:

I think another one that would

help with this situation is saying,

631

:

what is your What am

632

:

I trying to say?

633

:

Maybe perspective or what's your

perspective on date night for you?

634

:

Can I share you what mine

is and why I need it?

635

:

Or want it, need or slash want.

636

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

637

:

Just having those actual conversations.

638

:

Well, and yeah, those phrases

help those actually happen.

639

:

jamee: yes.

640

:

Yeah, but having the conversation

is seriously number one.

641

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

642

:

Yes.

643

:

What one do you want to do next?

644

:

jamee: Okay, let's see.

645

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Let

me know if you want me to scroll.

646

:

jamee: Okay, so we're going like each

of the small bullet points, right?

647

:

We can go from there.

648

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

649

:

jamee: Okay, let's do the

afraid to admit that I want it.

650

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay, yeah.

651

:

jamee: You see, yeah, you

know what I'm talking about?

652

:

Afraid I won't get it.

653

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yes.

654

:

jamee: Okay, so let's think.

655

:

Okay, solutions for this one.

656

:

Oh, man.

657

:

I think it all starts with phrases,

but also I'm trying to think of a

658

:

solution of how she can recognize

659

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Hmm.

660

:

Yeah.

661

:

Like, are there some journaling

prompts that might help her?

662

:

Or like

663

:

jamee: idea.

664

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Hmm.

665

:

jamee: Okay, maybe asking

questions about like to herself

666

:

just like quick, like rapid fire.

667

:

Do you feel your husband

668

:

would take you on a date?

669

:

Like, yes or no?

670

:

How would you answer that?

671

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Is that right?

672

:

Do you feel your husband

would take you on a date?

673

:

jamee: Yeah.

674

:

Do you feel your husband

would take you on a date?

675

:

And then maybe on that one is

like, why, why do you think that?

676

:

Okay.

677

:

Another one would be,

678

:

what are some of your favorite

ways to connect with your husband?

679

:

And vice versa, right?

680

:

What are some ways your husband

likes to connect with you?

681

:

And do you know for sure,

like you have to ask him, you

682

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

Yeah, yeah, it's coming back to

683

:

jamee: can't assume we have to get

out of this assumption mindset.

684

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

Do you know that?

685

:

Have you ever asked him?

686

:

jamee: Yes.

687

:

Okay.

688

:

And then maybe afraid to admit it.

689

:

It's like,

690

:

what, or like, tell me

about an experience.

691

:

you had

692

:

about asking, asking for

something and not receiving it

693

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Oh,

694

:

jamee: specifically in

your marriage, I guess,

695

:

because I think there's things

696

:

in that experience that you can kind of

pick apart and say, Oh, number one, you

697

:

probably recognize you didn't really ask.

698

:

You thought you asked because it's

coming back to being specific.

699

:

And this is something that

I've had to learn too.

700

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: thinking

about something else for this point too.

701

:

jamee: Yeah.

702

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Oh, and I

don't, I don't know this, if this is

703

:

actually this or this might be a separate

thing, but I think something that's coming

704

:

up for, for me where I'm like resistant

to date night is like, What would?

705

:

And maybe this is again,

I'm going to like,

706

:

jamee: Yeah, totally.

707

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: but maybe

I'll just kind of do it under here,

708

:

but we'll do like a yellow one.

709

:

She knows she wants it.

710

:

So like what what's that called?

711

:

Like ops, like not obstacles, but

like what resistance, like, why do

712

:

you have resistance to eight night?

713

:

jamee: Okay.

714

:

I like that.

715

:

Absolutely.

716

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: again,

like, cause it would be like journal

717

:

prompts for myself, like journal prom.

718

:

jamee: Yeah.

719

:

I like that.

720

:

I don't think I've ever heard.

721

:

I don't think I've ever brainstormed

some journal prompts, but yeah,

722

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: I'm like such

a, it's like the coaching world, right?

723

:

It gets

724

:

jamee: I love journaling though.

725

:

Like as a person, I just,

I do love journaling.

726

:

So

727

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

Totally, no, I do too.

728

:

I'm like, why do you have

resistance towards date night?

729

:

And then I'm thinking, like, what

would have to be, what would have

730

:

to happen so that you wouldn't

have that resistance anymore?

731

:

You know, like, maybe if it's like,

well, I don't want to spend the money

732

:

on the babysitter, or then I won't

have time for X, Y, Z, I don't have

733

:

time, I don't know, like, what's,

734

:

jamee: So like, what would your ideal,

735

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: what, what,

736

:

jamee: maybe what's the

number one pain point for you,

737

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: yeah, yeah,

738

:

jamee: what's the number one pain point

739

:

for like, like you said,

babysitters, money,

740

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: yeah.

741

:

jamee: it?

742

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Yeah.

743

:

The mental load.

744

:

Yeah.

745

:

I think.

746

:

And again, I think you touched on this

earlier, but I think I like, we're like,

747

:

okay, we'll go on a date on Friday.

748

:

And then it's Friday night.

749

:

And I'm like, I just

750

:

jamee: so tired.

751

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: bed.

752

:

Yeah.

753

:

Yeah.

754

:

So

755

:

jamee: You're just drained from the week.

756

:

Yeah.

757

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: and

maybe like, and you could even

758

:

offer like coaching calls on this.

759

:

If you want it to, that could

be like another offer you did.

760

:

jamee: Yeah, girl.

761

:

I need to take notes from you and do that.

762

:

Cause that would be fun.

763

:

I think it would be super fun.

764

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Well, I'm

like, I, I, anyways, we, I, I, yeah.

765

:

We're like running short on time,

766

:

jamee: I know.

767

:

I know.

768

:

You got to go.

769

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: you, actually,

yeah, we should kind of wrap up on

770

:

this, but I'm gonna, well, one, I want

you to, if you have time for this, go

771

:

through the points that kind of sound fun

for you and just brain dump solutions.

772

:

That doesn't mean you have to create

an offer on this, but just brain

773

:

dump solutions for each of these

points that we can flip and then

774

:

choose one of them that sounds best.

775

:

Well, one, that sounds the most fun

for you to start with and easiest, and

776

:

that is the easiest for your people.

777

:

So like, a live coaching call with

you, that's kind of a big step because

778

:

they have to be there at a certain

time, they have to, all the things.

779

:

But you know, if it's like a free

download, or like my favorite these

780

:

days is like an Instagram story,

what's that called, like a poll,

781

:

jamee: Like a pull.

782

:

Yeah.

783

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: You could

even say like, what's the number

784

:

one thing getting in the way of

you connecting with your spouse?

785

:

Like, don't have time, don't

have money, don't have energy.

786

:

And then for whatever one they

choose, then you'll say, I'll give

787

:

you specific like a tip for that one.

788

:

So like, if they don't have time,

then you give them like, I don't

789

:

know, one tip or three tips or

something that will help with that.

790

:

jamee: Yes.

791

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: I, so

let me write down what I need to do.

792

:

I always tell people I'm

going to do this for them.

793

:

And then I'm like, what

did I just tell them?

794

:

jamee: I know.

795

:

But cause we're like in the

moment, we got the momentum going.

796

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: exactly.

797

:

Okay.

798

:

What is it today?

799

:

Today is Monday.

800

:

Okay.

801

:

So yeah, you brain dump.

802

:

solution ideas for each of these.

803

:

And then I will,

804

:

what did I say I was going to do?

805

:

I literally already forgot.

806

:

I will, oh I know, I'll brain dump,

I'll also give you some ideas and kind

807

:

of give you what I would start with.

808

:

Because that's the other thing

I kind of like I was saying with

809

:

many offers is I like to start with

things that are like really easy

810

:

for people and then kind of like get

more committed if that makes sense.

811

:

jamee: Okay.

812

:

Totally.

813

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Based on, yeah,

so I'll, I'll give you kind of like a

814

:

jamee: Like a start here

and work towards this.

815

:

Okay.

816

:

Alex | Mindful with Media:

Like a mini offer idealist,

817

:

starting simple and getting more

committed and typically like the

818

:

price can increase with those and the

commitment level of your people and

819

:

from you will increase with those.

820

:

jamee: No, I'm sweet.

821

:

Alex | Mindful with Media: Okay.

822

:

Oh, I'm excited for you.

823

:

jamee: I'm excited.

824

:

Like this has been so fun.

825

:

. Alex | Mindful with Media: Thank you so

much for being willing to do this for me.

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jamee: And I seriously was like, Alex.

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me.

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Like is what I need in my life.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

Oh, I'm so glad.

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This was really fun for me.

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And sorry, it got cut a little short.

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jamee: super awesome.

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No, don't even worry about it.

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Honestly.

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Like this was just

awesome to talk out loud.

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I feel like that is so, so helpful.

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

Oh, I'm so glad.

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Yeah, feel free to reach

out if you kind of get sick.

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Sometimes I like end coaching calls

with people, you know, like as a being

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coached, and I'm like, that was so good.

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But now I don't know what to do

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jamee: Where do I go now?

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Yeah.

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Alex | Mindful with Media: like what

to go next, feel free to reach out.

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jamee: Okay.

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Absolutely.

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Thank

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Alex | Mindful with Media:

We'll see you, JB.

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jamee: Okay.

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We'll see you later.

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Okay.

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We had to end our coaching call before.

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We could get to the part

where we actually turned those

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solutions into mini offer ideas.

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And so I just want to share a few.

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Mini offer ideas.

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That I came up with after our

coaching call and sent over to Jamie.

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, just so you can hear like how we

turn these into actual things.

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So

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the first mini offer idea that I

gave her is on her Instagram stories.

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I told her she could create a

poll where she asked her audience.

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What's the biggest challenge

that makes it hard for you to

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go on dates with your spouse.

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And then.

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She would say something like choose one.

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And then I'll send you custom ideas.

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So that you can connect with your spouse.

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And so then, like for the

options on the poll, For what?

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The challenge, like the biggest

challenge for that person.

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A little bit, what the

biggest challenge for.

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People might be facing options

where one finding a babysitter.

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Too.

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They're just too tired and low energy.

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Three, not enough money.

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Or for just the mental load

of making a date happen.

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So then for whatever, when they

chose, she could respond to

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them, DM them and just eat there.

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Give them one idea for a way

to connect with their spouse.

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Even with that problem or that challenge

or that obstacle that they're facing.

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So that was many offer idea.

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Number one, the second mini offer

idea that I suggested to her.

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Well I'll tell you the mini offer idea.

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It was basically just

Conversation starters for.

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Her.

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Ideal client to know how to.

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Communicate.

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Her desire for connection with her spouse.

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And then I also wrote up some

story sites for her to help.

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Her audience know, like

to connect with that.

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I think, especially when.

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If it's an offer, that's

like, for example, yeah.

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Like conversation starters or scripts or

things like that, where it's like people.

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I want it and they know that it's good for

them, but they need to like, I don't know.

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I feel like you have to

do a little bit more.

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Messaging with those kinds of

offers, be to help people know.

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Like how much they really want it to help

them want it more, if that makes sense.

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Anyway, so I wrote up some, some.

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Like marketing messages for her

to use, to help people actually

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know that they want that.

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Then the third mini offer idea that

I recommended that she could use

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is like a PDF download that has

how to connect with your husband

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and less than five minutes a day.

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And then I would just

have like one thing that.

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They, she could do each day.

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To connect with her husband.

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That was not any extra work or

mental load or things like that.

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Then the fourth.

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Many offer idea that I suggested.

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I call it the power couple challenge,

and this would be a seven day

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challenge that she could do it.

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And Instagram broadcast channel or

Voxer or a Marco polo or something else.

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And, The challenge would be like every

day for seven days to have a connecting

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conversation with your husband.

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And this would only need to take

five minutes or less because a lot

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of her ideal clients are really

busy and it feels like too much.

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So she's wanting to help them like.

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Just experience a taste

of what it can be like.

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To connect with your husband and

take time for that and make it

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as easy as possible for people.

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So in this challenge, Every

day she would send them.

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One question.

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For the couples to use to start

their conversation conversation.

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And she could even like, you know, maybe

the first day of the challenge kind of

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give them some tips on like how to carve

out time for this, or like, Or maybe

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never even carve out time, like show them

how they can have these conversations.

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Like.

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When they're already doing other

things or something, so they can

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see, like, it doesn't have to be a

ton of extra work to put a little

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bit more effort into your marriage.

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Anyways, there are so, so, so,

so many, many offer ideas that.

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She could create out of the.

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The solutions that will, the

obstacles that she came up with.

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And then also when she brainstorm some

more solutions, there are so many options.

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And so I think, yeah, just a reminder.

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I have a.

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Free guide.

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It's called your guide to creating

mini offers so that your audience can

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trust you enough to pay you more money.

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So it's just ways to help people get a

little taste of how you can help them

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and experience many transformations.

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So that they can, they're ready to,

to pay you more money and invest more

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into you and how you can help them.

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And it's, it's really powerful to set

aside your own agenda, set aside your

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business for a second and really just

get to the root of what your person.

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Wants.

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What's getting in the

way of what they want.

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And diving deeper on what's really

getting in the way, like why is that

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getting in the way of what they want

and then creating offers for those

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things and not just creating offers for

what you think they, they might want.

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So definitely, definitely, definitely

take some time to go through this process.

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And if you want help doing this,

I love helping people with this.

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So reach out and I will let

you know some options for that.

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K, we will talk to you next week.

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Mindful with Media
This is the podcast for entrepreneurial moms who want to grow a meaningful, profitable business without sacrificing their other priorities (like spending time with their kids or getting enough sleep).

Host Alex Fales—business coach, mindset mentor, and mom—shares honest conversations, simple strategies, and powerful mindset shifts to help you and make money doing work you love and grow as a person while you're at it.

Expect solo episodes, authentic chats, and real-life stories that help you blend business strategy with personal growth, so you can build a business that supports your life (not the other way around).

Because you don’t need more hustle.
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