Episode 65

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6th Nov 2024

65 | November Life Update: Matt's work & health update, running, and business

I planned to record a personal life update a month ago, but things were SO up in the air that I held off. Tune in to get an update on Matt's health, Matt's work, my business, running, and finally seeing why things happened the way they did.

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I've coached nearly 100 women about their screen time,

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and here's what I've learned.

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Women actually don't care about their

screen time, they care about those things

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that are impacted by their screen time.

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Their ability to be patient with their

kids, the growth of their business,

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having time to pursue their creative

dreams, their relationship with their

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husband, the inner peace that they feel,

their confidence in themselves, their

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Connection with God, their friendships

not missing out on their kids' childhoods.

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I'm Alex and I'm here to

help you find inner peace.

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Enjoy true fulfillment

and be fully present.

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Welcome to the Mindful with Media Podcast.

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It has been a hot minute since I

have recorded a podcast episode.

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And there are a few reasons why.

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Aye.

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Usually just work from home.

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And then my babysitter

comes to my house and then.

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Sometimes it takes the kids places, but.

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At least some of the time they're

at my house and my daughter.

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Husband's struggling this last week with.

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Sleep.

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She's constantly been claiming

out of her crib and she's just

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recently learned how to open doors.

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And so that's just added a whole new.

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Game that.

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My oldest, my son, he is.

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Three and a half.

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And he started sleeping through the night.

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About a month ago for the first time ever.

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And so he's had challenges in different

ways, but he, even though he has

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known how to climb out of his crib,

he's in a toddler bed now, but he.

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Just never did.

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Like, he just didn't

climb out of his crib.

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And so this is a whole

new playing field anyways.

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She's been super tired and.

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Last time when I was trying to work.

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At home and the babysitter came.

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She was having a really hard

time with me being there.

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And so my sweet friend and neighbor

offered to let me come work at her

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house and see if that goes better.

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So.

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We will see when I get back home, how, how

that went, if that was helpful for her,

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or if it's something else that she needs.

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So.

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About once a month.

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I like to do well, actually.

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That's not true.

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I would like to once a month do kind of

more of a personal podcast episode that's

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yeah, just a little bit more about maybe

what's going on in my personal life or.

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Behind the scenes things and my

business, or just things like that.

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And so I had planned to do a personal.

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Life update type episode.

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Whenever the last episode was

supposed to come out, I think it was

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like three weeks ago or something.

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Maybe for anyways.

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And.

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I was about to record that episode.

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To give an update on.

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Our personal life, but there were

so many things up in the air.

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About.

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My husband's work situation and

kind of what was next for us that.

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I ended up.

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Like waiting to record it.

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And then I'm really glad that I

waited because we found out that.

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Legally, we are not supposed to

share very much about that situation.

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So.

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I do want to give, share what

I can about what's going on.

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Many of, you know, About my

husband's health situation.

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If you don't know, you can go back

and look for any episode related to.

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Seizures or a peek into my personal

life or personal life update.

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There are a few of those, and those

will give you more background about.

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What's been going on with that.

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But David went update.

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He is not working full-time anymore.

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, and he's done with the

company that he was at.

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He'll just be.

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Working part time.

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Potentially forever, potentially

just for a short time.

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We're not really sure.

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What that's going to be looking like.

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He.

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Has not had a grand mal

seizure since August.

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So that's been really nice.

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He still has about one.

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We call them mini seizures,

but there are these.

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What are they called?

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Focal impaired awareness seizures.

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He still has about one of those a day.

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Generally speaking

though, I feel like his.

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His health seems to be improving.

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He's not quite as.

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Bedridden, so to speak as.

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He has been in the past months,

which has been so, so fun.

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We went on a real life date.

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Last week and we're going to go on another

one tonight and it, it feels so exciting

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to actually have him spend time with us.

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And then that's also partially

possible because well, yesterday

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was the last day of work.

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So.

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That will be.

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A little bit more possible

because he's not spending.

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You know, 45 hours a week.

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Working, he will hopefully have a little

bit more time for somewhat of a normal

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life instead of just working and sleeping.

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He has some more testing.

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Next week he'll do a neuro

psych evaluation and then.

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He's also got an MRI

sometime in the next month.

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And then.

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I believe it's November 15th.

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The there's a conference where.

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All the neuro people.

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We'll meet together.

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You know, the neurosurgeon, , his

neurologist, who is actually an

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epileptologist specializes in seizures.

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And.

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The neuropsychiatric list, basically

anyone who has anything to do with

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the brain we'll meet together and

look at all of the data from all

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the testing that he's been doing.

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And make her economic

recommendation about what is next.

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For him and that's most

likely a brain surgery.

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Here's what they're looking at.

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They're just looking at what

type of brain surgery it is.

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I think I've shared in the past,

like some of the different options.

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Yeah.

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So that's kind of where things are at.

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We should know by December,

what will be happening with.

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The surgery or if they

need to do more testing.

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Before they, you know, Cut out part

of his brain or put a chip in his

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brain or something invasive like that.

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And we're so grateful.

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We have, he has a fabulous

health team that we.

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Just trust on such a deep level, which

we haven't always had in the past.

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So that's been really nice to have.

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Such great doctors who.

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Are so specialized in.

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Mats.

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Experience.

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It's been so interesting.

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I think a lot of people kind of hear

what's happening in our lives and.

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Feel bad or sorry, or I don't know.

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Maybe they don't know what to feel.

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And it's been so interesting

because I feel like the last six

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months, honestly, there have been.

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Really hard things.

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And I, as I've shared before,

Tears and fear and exhaustion

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and just some really hard parts.

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And I feel like we.

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We kind of are like, Coming out of

that dark part and just, it just

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feels like there's so much light.

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And hope and.

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And joy and gratitude for

where we're at right now.

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And even like, that's kind of our family

as a whole, but even personally, It's

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been really cool to look back at the

beginning of this year and see some of

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the visions that I had of what I wanted.

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And one of the things

that I wanted was a baby.

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And that has not been our reality.

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The month we were

planning to start trying.

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Was the same month that

Matt had a seizure.

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And so that was confusing and really hard.

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Initially.

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And.

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It's been.

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Yeah, I think that's

something that I still.

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Would wan and it's been

really cool to see.

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How I've.

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Grown and changed and progressed

in, in other ways, separate from

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adding another child to our family.

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And.

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Shout out to my friend, Kayla.

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She, and I were talking.

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I don't know, a month ago, maybe.

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And she was sharing some things that.

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Inspired me.

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Two.

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Sign up for a marathon.

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And I've always said, like, once

I'm done having kids, then I will.

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I want to run the Boston marathon.

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And if you're not in

the running world, like.

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The Boston marathon you

have to qualify for.

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And the times are.

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Pretty fast too.

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Hello to qualify for Boston, but that's

just always something I've dreamed of.

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Doing.

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And.

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I think she might've said

like, well, why, why not now?

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Like, why do you need to wait

until you didn't having kids?

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And.

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You know, can I make up

all these excuses of a lot?

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I don't know.

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I don't know.

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I don't know.

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And I still.

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Still don't know, like for

Boston specifically, but I did

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after that conversation, sign

up for the Ogden marathon.

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In may, which feels so fun to be able to.

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Be training for something.

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I did a half marathon last fall.

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But the problem with half-marathons

is I've had enough running

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experience that I know I can.

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Run the half marathon without.

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Training.

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Like, I, I would.

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It's better if I train,

but I would be fine.

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And so it's not quite motivating enough

to like, get me out the door to train.

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But I knew, I know a marathon

I've only done one before.

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I know a marathon.

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I need to train.

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So.

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Yeah, I guess.

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Okay.

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I don't I'm.

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I love.

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Okay.

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I'm like going on all of these tangents

and that's what I want these personal

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episodes to be is just a little bit more.

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Chatty and random.

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So.

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Where was I going with this?

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So I.

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Sign up for a marathon

that feels really good.

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Kind of more context on like

my running and fitness journey.

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So.

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I met with coach Carrie.

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She's like a running

and fitness life coach.

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I can't remember when it was,

but towards the beginning of the

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year, Just about like, just trying

to figure out running where.

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And through that call, I realized like

I'm ready to run more intensely than I

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have been, but I'm such a social runner.

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And so I was having a hard time.

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Finding my running people.

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And there were all these obstacles

getting in the way anyways.

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I found my running people and,

and it's a few different people.

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And so I trail run once a week and

then I run with a neighbor around

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my house, like near my neighborhood

in my neighborhood once a week.

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And then I've been doing.

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Twice a week.

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With someone I met through a Facebook

group, shout out to Brittany.

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This is new as of like maybe a month ago.

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And.

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She pushes me to be a little faster

and she even helps me do speed work.

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And even this morning, like, as

we were doing some speed work.

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I realized I was going at Boston pace.

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And so I was like, Whoa, this,

this could be a possibility too.

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Qualify for Boston.

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And it's just cool.

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When you envision something.

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And then you take.

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Aligned action.

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How then that becomes your reality.

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And it's really cool to look back

and see that happening and kind

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of being in the middle of that.

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Becoming someone new and, and.

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Achieving things it's really fun.

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And then also just within.

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My business.

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Looking back at my business.

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I don't know.

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I I'm.

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Yeah.

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If you've been around here, you

know, I don't really know how I

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feel about goal specifically, but my

business intentions and dreams I have.

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Far surpassed them.

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And it's, it's wild to me that.

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I am where I am with my

business and even things like.

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I've always dreamed of working

with Kaylin priest one-on-one

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and that happened this year.

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And then I've always dreamed of.

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Doing a rebrand rebrand with Rebecca

Peterson and that's starting to happen.

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And.

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I've always dreamed of working with Amber

Smith and I'm in a group program with her.

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And.

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Looking into a one-on-one option with her.

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And just all these things that

I thought were like way far

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off dreams are like happening.

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And it just it's wild

that I'm to this place.

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And so that just feels

really fun and exciting.

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And kind of along those same lines.

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Aye.

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I'm seeing why things happen

the way that they did.

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You know, when I first had this little

seed of an idea to start posting online

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about being intentional with screens all

first off, I was scared out of my mind.

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And put it off for six months,

but the idea would not leave me.

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So finally I took action and did that.

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And then I just have had like, Increased.

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Nudges and sometimes a lot stronger than

nudges of like, you got to do this, you've

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got to take action and move forward.

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And it's really, really,

really cool to like, Look back.

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At those times when I was so scared or.

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It didn't make sense, like why I felt

so strongly to do my own business when.

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I, I had all these other.

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Things like I could be working for other

people or I, you know, I had these kind

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of like side jobs I was doing or just

different ways I thought about sending

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my time, but I just felt so strongly.

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Like you need to do this business

and you need to monetize it.

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And so I Le I leaned into that and

I figured it out and I I've done it.

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And now with all of mats health

stuff, kind of coming out of the blue.

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It's really cool to look back and

just feel so grateful that God.

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Was directing us the whole time.

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Like he knew.

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That.

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It would be ideal for us, for

me to have my own business.

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So I've just been feeling really grateful.

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To be where we're at and to see.

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Why things happen the way they did.

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So if you're in a season of your

life or your business, where.

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You're having nudges and you're

not sure why, or, and it could be

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to stop your business, you know?

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It's not necessarily the same nudges

that I had, but just, just to encourage

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you to, to follow those and lean

into those, even if it feels scary.

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And also with that, you know, like I said,

like, I felt like I needed to make money.

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It was really important for me to

let go of the timeline on that.

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That.

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You know, I think initially when

they had that desire, like I just

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wanted to make it happen right away.

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And then when it didn't

happen right away, I felt.

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Dumb and just, it was really hard.

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And so then I was like, well, I don't

care about making money anymore.

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Then I would lean back into that and

then I would get the nudge again.

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And so I'd become really

attached to making money, but.

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It's possible to want to make money.

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Without being so.

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Desperate to make money.

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And your business.

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And so if you can find that

way of wanting and working and.

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Moving towards.

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That without being so.

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Attached to that.

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That was the sweet spot for me.

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And I'm, I'm leaning into that sweet spot.

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Now and forever.

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And kind of on that

note, I have started a.

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Private podcast.

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It's called the mindset momentum.

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And it's a daily podcast.

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Well, every weekday.

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It's only like five minutes

and it's like a meditation.

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Or training.

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To help you get in the right head

space about your business so you

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can actually make consistent money.

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And.

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I'll make sure to link in the show notes.

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Technically the presale ended

yesterday, but because you're listening

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to this, I'll include the presale.

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So you can join it only $10 a

month instead of $31 a month.

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And you can cancel anytime.

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So like if you signed up today and

you canceled today, you'll still

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get access for the first month.

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And then.

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You wouldn't after that,

if that makes sense.

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So, yeah, I'll include the link to that.

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And.

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I think, I think that's it for today.

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Oh, I guess also just, I don't know, big

things are happening and they business.

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It's a big changes are, are coming.

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I've felt some really strong poles.

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About changes that I want

to make in my business.

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And I feel like now is

the right time for that.

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So watch out for some,

some big things happening.

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And I'm just so grateful

that you're here and.

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Aye.

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Yeah, grateful that you would listen.

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We'll talk to you later.

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This is the podcast for entrepreneurial moms who want to grow a meaningful, profitable business without sacrificing their other priorities (like spending time with their kids or getting enough sleep).

Host Alex Fales—business coach, mindset mentor, and mom—shares honest conversations, simple strategies, and powerful mindset shifts to help you and make money doing work you love and grow as a person while you're at it.

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